Question by K8: The NHS have offended me! I’m probably life ludicrous and touchy but subdue….?
I had my very first midwife appointment earlier on this week and she questioned me all the routine questions about my health check history and mental wellness and stuff. Clearly becoming honest, as she questioned if I’d ever taken drugs, I stated as I was 16 and in my “naughty rebellious stage” I tried cannabis once which I despised and ecstasy as which again I despised and I haven’t touched anything be fond of that because. She then questioned me if I drink and I said no, I didn’t even drink just before I got pregnant, I’m basically completely teetotal and have been for being now. Then she questioned me if I had ever been depressed or self harmed and I said yes, as I was 16 and hadn’t been/carried out either because. I am completely sound of mind, teetotal and a extremely pleased person apt now and this morning, I got a letter in the placement from the midwife saying “thankyou for becoming so commence about your past. here are some leaflets you force locate valuable” and enclosed were two leaflets, 1 about “dealing including a drug addiction throughout pregnancy”- which told me the dangers of taking heroin (?!?!?!?!?!?!) and copious other narcotics and 1 telling me the dangers of drinking throughout pregnancy!!!! Ok, I know I’m really hormonal and sensitive genteel now but COME ON! I really believe utterly offended! Did she not listen to a word I stated?! How patronising, I mean, yeah nice of her that she obviously felt she wanted to aid but sincerely! Are the NHS usually this patronising? Due to the detail as I in detail genuinely demand their help, they’re imcompetant, rude, uncaring and slppy but as I don’t want “drug abuse suggestions” I get it shoved down my throat! Anyone else had this? Oh and I’m in the family tree way that some stuck up pretencious idiot will try and lecture me and tell me off for trying drugs As as I was a teenager, all I can say to that is, quit becoming so narrow minded and ignorant and get off your high horse. THANKS! 
Scott K, I sympathise including you that you will in no way ever know what it is be fond of to be pregnant and nearly consistently want to bash someone’s skull in, in this instance it is your skull I want to bash in for becoming so ignorant and not appreciative that yes, I know I am life touchy (SEE THE TITLE OF MY EFFING QUESTION YOU BLIND F**K) but pregnant females have to place up including a continuous rush of hormones which get on to them want to weep/shout/scream 1000 times much more than they normally would. If you’re going to come in the pregnancy section and tell a pregnant woman how to believe, then at smallest amount get some education in sensitivity you stupid ignorant c**t.
And yes, Sherry has summed up my feeling PERFECTLY. I’m nerve-racking about what they’ve got down on my health check records now, I don’t want everyone thinking I’m some sort of heroin addict for crying out loud!
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Answer by Sherry Babyy
You undoubtedly have the right to be offended. I would be too. She clearly didn’t listen to a word you stated. And God knows what she wrote down in your record. I’d call them & give them a cut of my mind.
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k, well,
she heard you say YES as she questioned about using drugs
it don’t theme to her WHEN you used them, just that you did use them
it’s all normal to crash new mommies about all the BAD stuff out there in the world that could harm baby to be if mommy’s not careful
it’s just an education business that all doctors and nurses have to do (i don’t reckon they have a choice)
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I imagine that they send the same things to everyone who mentions having tried drugs etc. as a precaution. Don’t take it too much to heart, I’m sure it’s not meant as a personal insult to you.
No I do reckon that’s offensive. If you clearly told her that you don’t drink or do drugs now, why would a leaflet on drug addiction all owing to pregnancy be of any use to you?
We all have a past of some sort – you’re more honest than most. I’m not sure what you should, or could do about it – but perhaps mention it to the practice administrator at your doctor’s surgery?
Don’t be offended…use your energy for more positive things!
They probably have to cover themselves in case any of their clients later blamed them for not advising them appropriately. It won’t be personal. pregnancy is a stressful time….there would be broadcast that revert to using those types of stress relief at times be fond of that….stupid as it may be.
Regard yourself lucky that you know better….and just delight in your pregnancy.
NHS really piss me off at time, grr, don’t take shit from them, just go to the hospital and if you want something to be done your way you fight for that!!!
I’m plotting to do something unique this beacon night anyways… heheee
They nearly undoubtedly have a legal obligation to provide such things to broadcast who fit their rigid critera in order to check their legal liability in the consequence that something were to happen correlated to drugs/alcohol/self-harm. It’s ridiculously hypersensitive of you to take this so much to heart. She didn’t commit you everyplace, she didn’t force you into counseling, and she didn’t crash you to authorities. She sent you a freakin’ pamphlet, and it was probably a legal liability theme. I can’t imagine anything life less a huge deal.
Weep more. I’m glad you singled me out for a pouring. Christ.
They’re probably required to send those pamphlets out to anyone who admits past drug use (and maybe also to those who don’t), for liability reasons. They’re looking out for your baby, which you should appreciate.
Place them in an envelope and mail them back including a annotation that says, “As I already told you, I am not a drug user OR a drinker, so these pamphlets are of no use to me. Please pass them by the side of to someone who needs them. Thankfulness.”